What are your Sex-o-lutions!

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It's the beginning of a new month. Did your sex life make it to your list of resolutions this year? 

Yes? No? Maybe So?  

Have you even had a chance to really take a good look at whether you’re having the best sex of your life? Are you having sex with the person or people that give you the most pleasure?

Wait… Lemme back it up. What does your checklist for great sex look like? Waiiitt….. do you even have a checklist of what you want for your sex life?

If not, Let’s create one together.

First. Decide what kind of individual you would like to have sex with. Yes, this is a thing for your list. Without knowing what your ideal partner looks like you’ll always be sexing the wrong person. Just saying!  Your ideal sex partner! This isn’t determined purely off of physical attributes but can be based heavily on certain personality traits that you know would best turn you on.  Include in this ‘ideal’ partner whether this person should be exclusively sexing you or not, because! Having sex with someone that’s already in a committed relationship when you really want them to be just yours always puts a damper on that really great orgasm.

Second. What kind of sex do you want to be having? Yea... I see you. Did you just suck your teeth at me, roll your eyes or call me a flaming idiot. Well, that’s fine.  Many people don’t take the time to think about the kind of sex they really want to be having. Do you like just oral, lots of vaginal, sprinkled with some anal play and lots of spanking? What’s your recipe for pleasure? Can you tell your ‘ideal’ partner what exactly it is you like? If not go back and edit that partner! Cause they ain’t for you!

Third.  Communicate your wants and desires and actively pursue them, don’t just sit on your laurels.  It’s all fine and dandy to plan out the ideal, pursue it. Hold yourself to your own standards.  If you’re already in a relationship, discuss your current sex life with your partner and whether it meets each of your ideal of the kind of sex you want to be having. Discuss ways of including what each of you like slowly, ease the newness into the bedroom.

Now, changing aspects of your sex life will not be an overnight activity. Like any goal, its will need a timeline and some reasonable expectations. So go ahead, write those timelines and expectations down next to those goals and check back these goals in the next three months. After three months, re-evaluate these goals – where they achievable and attainable? What worked? What didn’t? Not to worry… we’ll be checking in with you in three months to see you you’re doing.